This was a passage from one of my posts back in the summer. Today I really felt as though I needed a pick me up. So I decided that it was in my best interest to re-read the most important quotes I got out of Gretchen Rubin's Happiness Project . This book made such an impact on me and helped we through alot this summer.
One of the most important things I have learned is that " when people's minds are unoccupied, they tend to drift to anxious or angry thoughts. And rumination - dwelling on slights, unpleasant encounters, and sad events - lead to bad feelings. " This hit the nail on the head when thinking about the events of the past few months. I have created a new mind set, when I begin to feel sad about things. I think about my "area of refuge"- this is not a place per say, but a state of mind. Basically, when I start to ruminate (which I must say isn't that often, due to my happiness level being raised in so many different ways) , I think about positive things for example, Clark's face - giving good morning kisses to my chunk, Ithaca is Gorges- farmers markets, Cayuga lake, flowers on the door at 214 Utica, "10 square miles surrounded by reality", aroma of fresh tomato sauce, and feelings I get when shopping at the farmers market with my chunk.
The updated version for today, would be when I am ruminating I try my best to leave the area immediately. Not only does my worrying affect me but it affects the people around me. My biggest fear is to lose people that are very important to me because of something stupid.
So I seek an area of refuge that helps me to be the best person I can be for not only myself but for my chunk. I know I am a great person, compassionate, loving, and giving.
With my birthday approaching, I have feelings of sadness and happiness. Sadness because my mother always made birthdays so special- you would wake up to a card that said just the right thing. Then you would have the breakfast of your choice and sometimes, if you were lucky you could take the day off of school. The day was for you to do what YOU wanted... I know that we are all getting older, and birthdays don't mean as much as they once did.
But it is nice to know that maybe the day can be special in some way.. So I will make it special for myself. Because in the end you only have yourself to make happy!
Until the next time,
There is only love <3
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